Why did you buy them “that” gift?

The Christmas Season, that brief span of time between Thanksgiving and Christmas Day, is filled with a rush of emotions. With each person we select to buy a gift for comes one or more emotions we hope to express.

For some people it is a gesture of thanksgiving. For others it is a feeling of hope. Still others,love enduring, love beginning, sometimes even love lost with hope of restoring.

Each gift carries on its golden wings a message for the recipient. Make a friend, fill a need, sooth hurt feelings, or inspire them to self improvement, the list goes on.

Look at the gifts you have purchased. What message are you sending with them? If there is no message, you have wasted your time and money and need to put more thought into your gift giving. Imagine you went out in search of that one special gift to tell them how you feel.

For many a Christmas card and a brief phone call is all they need. If you want to buy someone a gift, focus on the message you hope to sent along with it and write it on the card you send with it. Along the way you will discover the true meaning of the Christmas Season. It is a renewal, a reawakening, and an appreciation of the many sources of love we have in our lives.

Why we are often misunderstood.

There is no doubt that secrets have led to more misunderstanding and fear in our relationships than from any other source.

Our failures to share these secrets with those who want to love us can only be seen as a selfish failure to love on our part. How can we expect them to love us if we didn’t show them the way to our hearts and souls?

By not giving them a clue how can we blame them for their negative reactions to our cry for help and forgiveness when we misstep. Oh woe is me until we have finally seen the error of our ways. From deep within we can hear the moans coming from many a memory of the sorrow we have caused by a secret which should never have been kept.

Sharing secrets gives you the understanding and compassion needed to help form the bond of trust needed to create a lasting love relationship. Your best friend will end up being your true love. Protect those secrets. Make some rules together, and enforce them gently in the language of love.

Apologize when you break a rule, and never do it again, so your love can continue to grow. Remember the Golden Rule. You will need it for guidance many times on the path to your true love. Loving one another is not easy. Love has rules. So too, must you.

With love, comes peace of mind.

Whenever possible, love should never be gray. You either do or you don't. Either you can or you can't. You either will or you won't.

A simple thing, black and white, for it is in the gray areas of our lives that we must live with our doubts and our fears. The simple strength we garner from things that appear black and white sustains us in times of chaos.

Like a sheltered anchorage in a stormy sea, we rely on love to calm our fears and steady our course as we sail from one adventure to the next.
To dwell for long in a world full of gray can fill your life with doubts.

Love should never be gray. Either you can or you can't. You either will or you won't. You either do or you don't.

Make the decision and find some peace of mind.
 
J.Siler