Given A Choice

Each and every day we are given a choice; to love or to hate. Many times a day we are given a chance to decide. And with each decision, we create a memory. How well we choose determines if that memory will end up as one of joy, or one of sorrow. How are we to know?

Most people live their lives in fear, reluctant to love for fear of getting hurt. We do have a choice, to live in fear, or be free to love and be loved for who we are. It is our choice to make. How are we to know?

All around us relationships continue to shatter from a lack of trust, like fragile china plates cast upon the rocks. What's really important, and why, continues to elude us on our quest to love and be loved. How are we to know?

Clinging to our independence we struggle to rise above the fray, only to discover that no one will follow us without a common goal to share. The merging of two lives into one is the only way. How are we to know?

There are rules to follow in order to love and be loved. Without rules, love cannot endure for very long. Do we know their rules? Do they know ours? How are we to know what they are?

There is only one way to form a true love relationship. We must first learn all its secrets. Then we must surrender ourselves to its incredible power. When we begin to focus this love on those who need our love, our world begins to change. How are we to know what love is?

True love relationships last forever; all others have a beginning and an end. The choice is to love and be loved. That choice is ours to make. Everything we need to know how is written down, here in this book. And, now we know!

J.

You Have But One Lifetime

To have peace, and love, and happiness every day of your life you will have to learn how to share your time. Once you have uncovered all the secrets to true love the rest of your life will become a continuous moment of great joy. No longer will you long to return to your youth and relive the precious moments when you loved and were loved so completely that the clock stopped for a little while as you reveled in the occasion.

No longer will you dream of retirement as the only means to take the time and make the time to love and be loved by those around you. You can have all this here and now. To do this you have to understand the close bond that love and time adds to your relationships when this time is shared to create a special memory, a timeless memory of joy. You have but one lifetime. What will you do with the time you have left?

Learn To Love Without Fear

"As I struggle to overcome my denial I ask myself if it is all true. How much do I really know about love? If I knew it all, I wouldn't be making all these mistakes. Can I step back and see myself for who I have become and admit there are still moments when I myself continue to fail? And, when someone else fails to love me is it intentional or do they lack the same knowledge about love that I do?

I am beginning to hear the cries of pain from my own wounded heart. Can I hear theirs? How many times in my life has the fear that they wouldn't love me stolen my courage and robbed me of the strength to defend myself. And, when it happened and I failed to love and be loved, I lost my love of self. I admit it.

Surrendering at last to the realization that much of the pain and sorrow in my past was caused by my lack of knowledge of what love really is, I feel the tears of regret slide down my cheek as I sink ever deeper into this pit of despair. Look what has become of me! I have lost my love of self.

 Thinking that love was just a gift given and received I didn't recognize the power it has to control my destiny. And these were not just found in the moments when I loved myself or someone else and made positive changes in who I am. Look at what happened when, not knowing how to love, this failure caused me to change in ways I am unhappy with?

In my thoughts and in my words, in what I have done and what I failed to do, without love to guide me, I have lost control over my destiny. But who will forgive me if I continue to deny it? With that thought I begin to see the source of all my fears. I need to learn how to love and be loved. It is my only hope for peace and love and happiness in the future. I am so tired of living in fear." J.

Create A Timeless Memory Of Joy

"So much time has gone past since the days of my youth. Each generation that has come after me has come face to face with the relentless clock and struggled to find time to love. There must be a solution that will end this chaos. I shake my head as I watch them waste so much of their time on things that leave them feeling empty inside at the end of the day. What does it take to fill each day with peace, and love, and happiness? In my quest for the secrets of true love I search for the answer." J.

Here we are now, on our quest for true love, and looking for the answer as to where and when it will happen for us. Some of us long for the days of our childhood where we had few responsibilities and plenty of time. Some of us look forward to our retirement where we can shed some of these responsibilities we carry as a burden on our time and slow down the clock that pushes us forward at an alarming rate. All of us are searching for just one thing. Looking back we remember the precious moments when time stood still and we took the time and made some time to love and be loved.

These are moments of great joy. And, for just a little while we lost track of time and created a memory that will last a lifetime. It is in this taking and making of time that we discover the truth about time and true love. It is timeless. But what is it that bonds time and love together to create a timeless memory of joy? To have peace, and love, and happiness every day of your life you will have to learn how to share your time.

My Trembling Heart

"There is a special fear, one like I have never known before, that came to me when I reached my goal of true love. As my love grows, so does my fear of losing it, for I have surrendered my independence and replaced it with my trust. The only thing that keeps this special fear in check are the words "I love you" spoken to each other many times a day.


Gently, tenderly, carefully, we hold each other's hearts in our hands, fearful that should we drop it, it will shatter and break into a thousand pieces. I grant no one else the privilege of holding my heart so close. I am honored that they trust me so completely with theirs. I am only human. What would happen if I should trip and fall? Will they give me a second chance?

I may never know the answer to this question. And so, I live my life with a special kind of fear that only true love brings. I can only hope that they share this same fear with me as they caress this trembling heart of mine that they hold in their hands." J.

Safe Harbor

"Together we stand as the winds of change begin to grow stronger. Our faith in each other gives us the strength to face the world head on. Looking around us we can see the chaos not knowing how to love causes others, cast adrift in the storm crying for help. Together we show them the way to a safe harbor, calm their fears, and give them hope.

As we cling to each other we became one, and with it came an inner calm that only comes from true love. I believe in you. I trust you. I respect you. You add stability to my life, and that gives me comfort and joy, knowing you are at my side ready to defend my honor, and I, yours. It is love such as ours that gives the world hope for the future." J.

Human Fusion

Two people, who have found true love, live their lives together in a perpetual state of happiness. Like the sun, where the fusion of two atoms together to form one creates light and heat, they have merged their minds, hearts, souls, and bodies to form one unique couple. From this human fusion comes a glow that is hard not to notice. Even from a distance, we can see the light their love shines on those around them.

We can feel the heat generated by their passion for life and each other whenever we get near. We can see them holding hands as they wander down a garden path, sitting close together on a park bench, spending hours of rapture across the table from each other at a fine Italian restaurant. We marvel at the magic aura that seems to surround them as they find solitude together, even as the rest of the world races by.

If they embrace us, and accept us as a friend, they will share this light and warmth with us. Spending time with them is like sitting in front of a fire in the fireplace of a great lodge, feeling the glow and warmth from the burning flames, and watching in fascination as the firelight casts beautiful images and shadows on the walls around us.

It is from these special people we get our inspiration to start our quest for true love. We can see the inner peace in their eyes. We can see the happiness in the smiles on their faces. And we can feel the power of true love radiating from them as they reach out and touch us with their optimism for a bright and beautiful future.

Expectations

"When I look back into the past to trace my path to true love, the memories of love found, and then lost, haunt me as I finally begin to see all those who wanted to love me for the beautiful people they were. The shining light of those memories grows stronger as I dwell upon the happiness and joy each one of these past loves added to my life. So too, do I feel again the sorrow that the end of each one of these special relationships burned as a memory forever on my soul.

I had such high expectations and ended up with nothing but bitter disappointment. What is the secret to finding and keeping true love in my heart forever? A cry of anguish rises from my wounded heart as I recall my frantic efforts to keep my grasp on true love, only to fall back once again into a pit of despair. I long for the warmth and passion for life that only love can bring to me.

And so, like the mythical Phoenix rising from the ashes of its funeral pyre, I rose again to resume my quest for true love. This time it will be with a different set of expectations. This time I will apply them to myself first. Surely then I can draw them close to me, and hold them entranced while using all the power of true love to guide me. And, it will at last be mine to keep forever in my heart. With it, peace and love and happiness will fill all my days for the rest of my life as I share those secrets with all whom I love."
J

Personal Changes

"True love is a powerful force. It is there for us to use to love and be loved. With it we can achieve true love of self. With it we can motivate others to love us. With its incredible power we can create an incredible true love relationship that will last an entire lifetime. With it we can reach our full potential and live in peace, and love, and happiness until the end of time. Using it we can bring together our physical, mental, and emotional paths and point them all toward a bright future. It will enable us to drop our facade and be a real person. And, every day we will change. Each change will be a positive one as we change ourselves just a little bit each day into someone a little better, a little more loving, a little wiser, a little more forgiving, a little more understanding and compassionate, a little more unique as we continue our efforts to be all we can be on our quest for true love. And, when we find it we will hold it in our hearts forever, and become one of those unforgettable characters that make the world a better place wherever they go." J.

Moderation and Procrastination

It seems I have found the break over point between busy and procrastination. What was once an occasional chore put off too long because I was busy now looms it ugly head as the truth comes out. I am now retired from one career and starting my next as a writer. Being a writer has its perks. Working at home in my writers den, I stay in my bathrobe most days until it's time to walk the dog. Although I am busy writing, pj's and a bathrobe pretty much rule out weed pulling, gutter cleaning, and a host of other jobs around the homestead, and delay them till later in the day. Tomorrow? Next week? I love to write. Those things can wait. I'm busy!!

True Love and Rejection

"Rejection is the most important mental process we use for starting a love relationship. Although we call it rejection it is really a process of elimination. Most of us don’t realize how many times a day we use it in our many encounters. Every time we go out into the world and meet other people we gather information about them and from that information we form a personal opinion of them. We either accept them or eliminate them as a possible friend or love interest based entirely on this information. We find out very quickly that first impressions are not very reliable because there are so many people out there hiding behind their altered egos so we continue to gather information until we either feel safe having them in our lives, or we don’t. We are looking for someone who will accept us for who we are so we can relax in his or her company and just be ourselves. Friendships form almost immediately after we successfully breach this barrier and our fear begins to fade. Friendships are the simplest form of a love relationship."

Update on "The Quest for True Love"-Just got (2) rejections from literary agents. Total rejections so far-(2)

This Old Man

"The personal opinions we all carry with us have a profound effect, not only on how we live each day, but also in what direction we choose to travel into the future. Wisdom in making those many decisions only comes to those whose personal opinions contain both love and the truth. Every distortion of the truth reduces the value of your opinion. When you share the truth, and do it with love, you open the door to your heart and let them see inside. Wisdom dwells within the heart."     J.