Every time you turn the page and start a new chapter in your life, you always pause for a moment or two to reflect on how your past has prepared you to take the next step. You look back with mixed emotions, and then decide what to take with you and what to leave behind.
A simple example would be those occasions when you are making a move from one home to the next: You feel this strange mix of emotions. You feel joy and sorrow as you look back, and excitement and a little fear as you look toward the future. Even as a child we experience this as we move with our parents, change schools, and are forced to leave friends and familiar places behind.
The most traumatic part is always the severing of the bonds we have formed with the people we have grown to love. We give one another parting gifts in the hopes that we will not be completely forgotten, and we promise each other to stay in touch. And, then we turn the page.
All of this emotional turmoil prepares us for the next major chapter in our quest. At some point in our lives, sooner or later the time comes when we sever our parent-child bond and declare our independence. Again, we look back with mixed emotions and decide what to take with us and what to leave behind. It is a traumatic time for both parent and child.
Most of us decide to take our parents with us into the future, and we discover we must start a new love relationship with them as adults to replace the parent-child we are leaving behind. We form new bonds with them so our love for one another can continue to grow. With their love and support we look forward with excitement to what the future has to offer us. Having them there helps us to control our fear of the unknown.
The key to making this decision is the reflection on the many moments of joy and sorrow we have experienced with them during our childhood. We take some of these moments with us, and leave some of them behind. And, then we turn the page.
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